Saṃyutta Nikāya · Discourse 9.8

The Mistress of the House

Kulagharaṇīsutta

Setting
A forest grove in the Kosalan lands
Speakers
A forest deity, disguised as a family's mistress, and an unnamed mendicant
Form
A staged confrontation, met with calm, unshaken reply
Length
~2.5 minutes to read
Northern parallel
A rough counterpart may exist in the Chinese Saṃyukta-āgama (T99), though this reading guide does not assert a specific matching sutra number
Difficulty
★★★☆☆ — a rare test the monk actually passes on the spot

Why this discourse

This discourse's deity takes a strategy unique in this saṃyutta so far: rather than speaking as itself, it manifests in the actual appearance of the woman whose family the monk has become too closely involved with, and confronts him directly with the gossip already circulating — people talking at river banks and highways about what's supposedly going on between them. It's a deliberately provocative test. And unlike most of the monks encountered elsewhere in this saṃyutta, this one doesn't need to be struck with urgency afterward; his answer, calm and unbothered, demonstrates he's already found the composure the deity was testing for.

Reading guide

A unique method: impersonation as the test itself

No other discourse in this saṃyutta has a deity actually take on someone else's appearance; here the disguise isn't incidental, it's the entire mechanism of the test — confronting the monk with exactly the kind of encounter his entanglement has made possible.

Gossip presented as already circulating, not merely hypothetical

The verse doesn't warn the monk that people might talk; it states plainly that they already are, gathering at river banks, guest houses, and highways to gossip about the two of them — the reputational damage framed as a present fact, not a future risk.

A response that reframes endurance as the actual practice

The monk's reply doesn't deny the gossip or defend himself against it; it states instead that a fervent ascetic must simply endure such sounds, since they don't themselves cause defilement — locating the real danger elsewhere entirely.

A named failure mode: the startled wind-deer

The monk's closing image doesn't just describe good practice abstractly; it names its opposite specifically — someone startled by every little sound, like a ‘wind-deer’ in the forest, whom people rightly call ‘flighty minded’.

A test passed, not merely survived

Unlike SN 9.1 through 9.7's monks, who each end up struck with urgency after the deity's intervention, this discourse simply ends with the monk's composed answer — no jolt of realization needed, because his response already demonstrates the equanimity being tested for.

Key terms

aññatarasmiṁ kule ativelaṁ ajjhogāḷhappatto — “become too closely involved in the affairs of a certain family” — the monk's actual entanglement, described neutrally.
tassā vaṇṇaṁ abhinimminitvā — “manifested in the appearance of the mistress” — the deity's unique method of testing, unlike anywhere else in this saṃyutta.
janā saṅgamma mantenti, mañca tañca kimantaraṁ — “people gather to gossip about what's going on between you and me” — the provocative confrontation, presented as already happening.
bahūhi saddā paccūhā, khamitabbā tapassinā — “there are many sounds echoing that a fervent ascetic must endure” — the monk's composed reframing of the danger.
saddaparittāsī, vane vātamigo yathā — “startled by every little sound, like a wind-deer in the wood” — the named failure mode the monk avoids being.

The text

The discourse in full. Translation: Bhikkhu Sujato (CC0, SuttaCentral).

§1At one time one of the monks was staying in the land of the Kosalans in a certain forest grove. Now at that time that monk had become too closely involved in the affairs of a certain family. The deity haunting that forest had sympathy for that monk, wanting what’s best for him. So, wanting to stir him up, they manifested in the appearance of the mistress of that family, approached the monk, and addressed him in verse:

§2“At river banks and guest houses, hotels and highways, people gather to gossip about what’s going on between you and me.”

§3“There are many sounds echoing that a fervent ascetic must endure. They ought not be dismayed by that, for that’s not what defiles you.

§4If you’re startled by every little sound, like a wind-deer in the wood, they’ll call you ‘flighty minded’; and your practice won’t succeed.”

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Self-check quiz

Ten questions. Click an answer to see immediate feedback. No score is recorded — this is for your own checking.

Question 1 of 10
What unique method does the deity use in this discourse?
Correct: A. The only discourse in this saṃyutta where a deity takes on someone else's appearance.
Question 2 of 10
What is the monk's actual fault, according to the discourse?
Correct: A. Entanglement described neutrally, without specifying particular misconduct.
Question 3 of 10
How does the disguised deity confront the monk?
Correct: A. A present, already-circulating rumor, not merely a hypothetical warning.
Question 4 of 10
How does the monk respond to this confrontation?
Correct: A. Reframing the situation rather than being destabilized by it.
Question 5 of 10
What does the monk say actually causes defilement, according to his reply?
Correct: A. Locating the real danger elsewhere, not in mere rumor.
Question 6 of 10
What image does the monk use to describe a failure mode?
Correct: A. Naming the opposite of good practice specifically, not just abstractly.
Question 7 of 10
How does this discourse's ending differ from SN 9.1 through 9.7?
Correct: A. A test passed on the spot, not merely survived through a jolt of realization.
Question 8 of 10
What term does the monk apply to someone easily startled by rumor?
Correct: A. A term of mild criticism for excessive reactivity to mere sound.
Question 9 of 10
What does the monk say happens to the practice of someone who is easily startled?
Correct: A. A direct consequence named for excessive reactivity.
Question 10 of 10
Where does this discourse take place?
Correct: A. The same general setting as the preceding discourses in this saṃyutta.
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