Saṃyutta Nikāya · Discourse 3.16

A Daughter

Dhītusutta

Setting
At Sāvatthī; no further narrative detail given
Speakers
The Buddha and King Pasenadi of Kosala
Form
A witnessed moment of disappointment, answered unprompted by a two-stanza verse
Length
~1 minute to read
Northern parallel
A rough counterpart may exist in the Chinese Saṃyukta-āgama (T99), though this reading guide does not assert a specific matching sutra number
Difficulty
★★☆☆☆ — short, but historically significant for what it pushes back against

Why this discourse

A messenger whispers news to King Pasenadi while he sits with the Buddha: Queen Mallikā, whose own honest self-regard featured at SN 3.8, has given birth — to a daughter. The king's visible disappointment at this news, in a culture that prized sons, prompts an unprompted verse from the Buddha pushing back directly against that preference: some women surpass men, and a wise, virtuous, devoted woman's son may grow to rule the very realm his father governs.

Reading guide

Disappointment read and answered without being voiced

Pasenadi never states his disappointment aloud; the discourse simply reports that he became disappointed upon hearing the news, and the Buddha responds directly to that unspoken reaction — teaching occasioned by what is observed rather than what is said, as at SN 3.13.

A culture's assumption named without being explained

The discourse does not narrate why a daughter's birth disappoints a king; it assumes the reader understands the social preference for sons that made this news land as unwelcome, letting the Buddha's corrective verse carry the entire argument against that assumption.

Some women are better than men, stated directly

The verse's opening claim is unambiguous and addressed directly to Pasenadi as ‘ruler of the people’: some women surpass men, specified as wise, virtuous, and devoted — a direct challenge to the disappointment the king has just displayed.

Worth argued through consequence, not assertion alone

Rather than resting on the claim of women's worth by itself, the verse's second stanza argues through consequence: such a woman's son may become a hero and even rule the realm — meeting the king's own values (dynastic succession, heroism, rule) on their own terms rather than rejecting them.

A verse that returns to Mallikā's earlier role in this saṃyutta

Read alongside SN 3.8, where Mallikā's honest self-regard prompted one of this collection's most famous teachings, this discourse extends her presence in this saṃyutta from a philosophical interlocutor to the actual mother whose child's birth the Buddha defends against her husband's own disappointment.

Key terms

dhītu — “daughter” — the news that prompts Pasenadi's disappointment and gives this discourse its title.
itthīpi ekacciyā seyyā — “some women are better” — the verse's direct opening challenge to son-preference.
sīlavatī — “virtuous” — one of the qualities the verse names in describing a woman who surpasses men.
sassudeva — “whose mother-in-law is her queen” (literally, regarding her mother-in-law as a deity) — describing the devoted wife's own household conduct.
raṭṭhaṁ pi anusāsati — “may even rule the realm” — the verse's closing claim about such a woman's son.

The text

The discourse in full: the king's disappointment and the Buddha's answering verse. Translation: Bhikkhu Sujato (CC0, SuttaCentral).

§1At Sāvatthī. Then King Pasenadi of Kosala went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. Then a man went up to the king and whispered in his ear, “Your Majesty, Queen Mallikā has given birth to a daughter.” When this was said, King Pasenadi was disappointed.

§2Then, knowing that King Pasenadi was disappointed, on that occasion the Buddha recited these verses:

§3“Well, some women are better than men, O ruler of the people. Wise and virtuous, a devoted wife whose mother-in-law is her queen. And when she has a son, he becomes a hero, O lord of the land. The son of such a blessed lady may even rule the realm.”

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Self-check quiz

Ten questions. Click an answer to see immediate feedback. No score is recorded — this is for your own checking.

Question 1 of 10
What news does Pasenadi receive during this discourse?
Correct: A. The news that prompts the king's visible disappointment.
Question 2 of 10
How does the king react to this news?
Correct: A. An unspoken reaction the Buddha responds to directly, teaching occasioned by observation.
Question 3 of 10
What does the Buddha's verse claim directly?
Correct: A. A direct challenge to the disappointment Pasenadi has just displayed.
Question 4 of 10
What qualities does the verse name in describing a woman who surpasses men?
Correct: A. The verse's specific criteria, not a claim of universal female superiority.
Question 5 of 10
How does the verse's second stanza argue for this woman's worth?
Correct: A. Meeting the king's own values — dynastic succession, heroism — on their own terms.
Question 6 of 10
What does the discourse assume the reader understands, without explaining it directly?
Correct: A. Letting the Buddha's corrective verse carry the entire argument against that assumption.
Question 7 of 10
How does this discourse connect to SN 3.8?
Correct: A. The same queen whose self-regard prompted this collection's famous teaching now bears the child the Buddha defends.
Question 8 of 10
Where is this discourse set?
Correct: A. A bare setting note, consistent with several discourses in this collection.
Question 9 of 10
How is Pasenadi addressed in the Buddha's verse?
Correct: A. A direct address befitting the verse's challenge to his own reaction as a ruler.
Question 10 of 10
How does this discourse's teaching arrive, structurally?
Correct: A. Similar in structure to SN 3.13's occasioned, unprompted teaching.
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